Dating, The biblical truth.

We talked about dating and started with the four types of love that people generally feel for the people close to them as it is crucial to understand them, to know what the impact is of our choices in dating.

Agape

• Unconditional love that sees beyond the outer surface
• The type of love that we must strive to have
• All about sacrifice, giving and receiving nothing in return
• Godly love
• You have done nothing to receive or deserve this love and there is nothing you can do to lose it

Phileo

• The type of love you have for a companion or friend
• The love that Christians have for one another (Rom 12, 1 Cor 13)
• John 15:12-14 
• Very unselfish.
• The love soldiers have in war for each other

Storge

• Family love
• The love that parents have for there children
• Unconditional
• Accepts flaws and faults
• Committed, sacrificial and secure
• Drives you to forgive

Eros

• Romantic love between men and women
• It is a love that we easily fall into.
• It focuses on self instead of the other person
• If the person does not feel good about the relationship any more they will stop
• Created for marriage

What is dating today in the world?

• Self seeking, and fulfilling our own needs
• Making excuses so we can find a middle point between marriage and being single that fits us
• Taking what God created for marriage and use it, as we want to
• No commitment

So what should we do?

• Seek God and trust in him (Proverbs 3:5-6)*
• God will provide you with a partner (Mark 10:6-9)*
• Love God above all things and people (Mark 12:30-31)*
• Keep our bodies pure and clean (1 Corinthians 6:18)
• God has a partner for you (Genesis 2:18)
• Ask the lord for a partner (Proverbs 19:14)*
• God will give you, your hearts desires (Psalm 37:4) (Matthew 6:8)

How will we know?

• Seek someone that also loves the God (2 Corinthians 6:14-15)
• Seek someone that lives Christianity (1 Corinthians 5:11)
• Avoid people with bad temper (Proverbs 22:24)
• Inner beauty counts (1 Peter 3:4)
• Good attitude (Romans 15:5-6)
• Encourages you and is supportive (Philippians 2:1-2)
• Don't be exclusive, care about others (Philippians 2:4)
• Grow step by step (2 Peter 1:6-7)

What to avoid?

• Wild parties (Romans 13:13)
• Sexual relationship (1 Corinthians 6:13, 18)
• 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5

We closed off with the following scripture.

Ephesians 5:23-28Amplified Bible (AMP)

23 For the husband is head of the wife, as Christ is head of the church, Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives should be subject to their husbands in everything [respecting both their position as protector and their responsibility to God as head of the house].

25 Husbands, love your wives [seek the highest good for her and surround her with a caring, unselfish love], just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify the church, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word [of God], 27 so that [in turn] He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy [set apart for God] and blameless. 28 Even so husbands should and are morally obligated to love their own wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.